WEDDING ENGAGEMENT ADVICE Part 1

Long range planning.
Consider your engagement as the beginning of your lifelong commitment; it’s the perfect time to create a healthy foundation for your marriage. As you plan your wedding, focus on your financial future by sharing dreams, savings, and debt issues, and start making a joint plan.

Magnetic personality.
For weddings that fall around holidays such as New Year’s Eve, to reinforce the date, create personalized, magnetic save-this-date cards, and send them out at least six month’s in advance.

Get professional help.
If you’re a disorganized bride, the stress will show at every turn.  Use the pre-wedding time to organize and weed-out conflicts, clutter, and emotions.  Enlist expert help to support you by hiring a financial advisor, wedding planner, organizational consultant and personal trainer. The extra time and money invested will result in a successful wedding and good-to-go marriage.

Choose your friends wisely
Once the engagement is announced, choose the bridal party carefully. Yes, it’s an emotional time, but use logic when you make important decisions. Consider: emotions, personalities, dependability, affordability, and your relationship with him/her. Once you make the offer, you can’t take it back, so use your best judgment.

Group Discounts.
Host your engagement party at a restaurant that caters to celebrations and ask whether they might give you a discount on catering, etc., if you also book your shower or rehearsal dinner with them at the same time.

Make arrangements.
Don’t put off discussing premarital agreements – get it out of the way, right away.  Yes, it’s awkward, but it’s part of our culture.  If you try to slide the issue on the table a month before the wedding, you’re not only asking for disaster, but it might not hold up in a court of law because it can be considered an agreement made under pressure.

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5 F.A.Q’s ABOUT BRIDAL REGISTRIES

1. What should I register for?
Obviously your needs and wants as a couple will influence your decision. . Before you begin the registry process have a heart to heart with your fiancé. Discuss you tastes, style, priorities, and your vision of your future home. Also be sure to take into account what items you already have as a couple.  Your selections will be easier and more focused when you have a game plan and you are working towards common goals! f you are an established couple that has most of the household basics, you may want to consider registering at specialty stores such as art galleries, hardware stores, sporting good stores, or even travel agencies. No matter where or what you choose, make sure you register for gifts in all different price points so that your guests can choose gifts within their budget.

2. Where should I register?

Choose your stores wisely! Make sure that your registry offers you and your guests what you need. Consider the stores selection, locations, online abilities, shipping abilities etc. Are they hassle-free?  Figure out what is important to you and your guests and make sure that the stores you choose meet these needs. Couples today usually choose 2 to 4 different registries. This gives your guests more options and locations. Consider department stores, online stores and, or specialty stores.

3. How do I let guests know where I am registered?

Although it is usually considered impolite to ask guests to buy gifts at certain locations, putting your registry information on your wedding website is perfectly acceptable and in this day and age, probably one of the most effective and polite ways to aim people in the right direction. Word of mouth is also a great tool! No matter what, people are going to ask your closest friends and family what would be best to get you, so just make sure they are well informed.

4. When should I register?

Make sure to register BEFORE the first bridal celebration but not early enough that many of your items may become discontinued. It is typically recommended that you register 4 to 6 months prior to the wedding. The majority of the gift purchases are made two weeks prior to the wedding and two weeks after the wedding. Due to this, make sure to do a thorough check two weeks before the wedding for any discontinued items.  This would also be the time to add items if necessary. You may also want to consider adding seasonal items at this time as well.

5. How many items should I register for?

Request more items then the number of people on your guest lists to account for showers and engagement parties. In this case more is better. Make sure you “over-register.” This will insure that your guest have many options. They will appreciate this!

A Picture Perfect Day

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